Hello, and welcome back to another episode of Manifestations, brought to you by A Style Study. In this series, which typically appears within the first week of each month, I share the one-word mantra that will guide me through the next four weeks. You might remember last month’s debut, when I vowed to spend the duration of June renewing my enthusiasm. Real talk? I failed…miserably. Despite declaring that I would wake up every morning with a smile on my face, I have to admit that I didn’t quite do that. Was I less frustrated and angsty? Yes, but I was still dragging around a lot of residual stress that kept me from moving forward like an anchor stuck in mud. Reflecting on all of this inspired me to rethink not only how to choose my future mantras, but also in how to go about fulfilling them. Find out about those changes and how they informed July’s manifestation below.
Given June’s lackluster start, I was pretty wary when it came to selecting July’s manifestation. Even my journal entry on the topic is kind of all over the place, filled with question marks and lots of rambles running in all different directions. Amongst the confusion, however, one thing was clear: In order to work on being my best self, I needed to let go of some stress and frustration. I am, frankly, a little exhausted dragging all that tension around. When I think about how I want to feel this month, the first word that comes to mind is light. In order to achieve this feeling, it’s clear that I need to take a metaphorical load off.
So that’s why I’m declaring July my month of ACCEPTING, or taking each predicament as it comes and not letting myself get hung up on it. I chose this as opposed to “lightness” or even “let go” because using a verb felt more actionable. With my June manifestation, I hit a wall when it came to how to apply my mantra in real life, so having this month’s theme already be a verb felt like a positive step forward (small victories, people). In addition, I came up with a super-doable, quick-starter checklist to help set me off on the path towards accepting and, eventually, letting go:
+ Breathing and Counting to 10 – All too often, I find myself reacting immediately to a situation without stopping and thinking about how serious (or, most cases, how unserious) it really is. This month, I want to practice keeping my emotions at bay by pausing and counting to ten. This exercise helps put everything back into perspective and prevent any regrettable outbursts.
+ Staying Active – Another rough habit of mine is wallowing in my own stress and unhappiness. A huge key to combatting this tendency to keep myself moving, wether by doing yoga or taking a run or even walk around the block. Over the past couple weeks, especially, I’ve noticed that getting outside for some cardio always leaves me feeling refreshed and ready to take on whatever challenge comes at me…even paperwork ;). In the spirit of this month’s theme, I plan to continue prioritizing physical movement as a form of therapy and, yes, as an instant mood-booster.
+ Acting How I Want to Feel – I came across this concept in Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Happiness Project, and was floored by it’s simple brilliancy. It makes so much sense, really. I mean, how are you supposed to feel happy if you act sulky? And, in my case, how do I expect to feel “light” if I insist on existing in a constant cyclone of resistance and frustration? After experiencing some setbacks with my mantra in June, I realize that a huge part of fulfilling my manifestation entails faking it ‘till I make it. Throughout the course of this month, I’ll be getting myself in the habit of behaving as if I feel “light” even when I might be itching to gripe about the humidity, or how my avocado wasn’t ripe this morning, and so on.* In fact, I’ve already had some experience putting the principle into action: One day last week, I really wasn’t feeling work. But I walked in that morning with a huge smile, and quickly made myself busy as if there was no place I’d rather be. Not surprisingly, it made a huge difference, and my spirits continued to rise for the rest of the day.
After experimenting with manifestations in June, I’m excited to enter July armed with a few new insights as to how to make this practice work. It might sound a little woo-woo, but I already love how coming up with these manifestations asks me to really examine myself, my life, and decide what I like and what’s not so hot. Eventually, I’d like to make this a more regular practice, but having a monthly “check-in” works for me right now. Let me know below…do you have monthly manifestations/mantras? If so, what’s yours for July? I’d love to hear what’s on your mind. 🙂
*Yes, this is the kind of stuff that gets to me. Yes, I know it’s a little crazy. This is why I’m working on it. 🙂